From Shakesville last week, “Lessons from the rape culture” (emphasis is mine):
It’s only a kiss. Don’t make drama over it; he’s not hurting you. Besides, you like kissing, right? And it’s not like you’ve got a boyfriend, so you can kiss whomever you want. What’s the big deal? “See? Good kisses.” He says it as if he’s showed me something. As if telling me to like it will make it so. I don’t remember his name. We only met that night. I extracted myself from his presence as quickly as was polite and never spoke to him again.
Because men raping women is systemic, and cultural, and yes it is the patriarchy and it is misogyny and it is men thinking they are entitled to women’s bodies. “Well, what did she expect, getting drunk like that?” isn’t salt in the wound, it is the foundation of the problem. The idea that if a woman is not actively preventing a man from sticking his penis into her (and even then, if she’s an enemy), he is doing nothing wrong, and hey, who can blame him, IS THE PROBLEM.
From Sociological Images, “Do You Love Animals? Do You Have Lady Bits? Take Off Your Clothes!”
I know, PETA is low hanging fruit, but the pictures so nicely illustrate the difference between the roles that men and women are supposed to play and what about a woman is supposedly important.
From the Rochester Post-Bulletin, “Man given jail, probation for sexual assault“.
A Rochester man has been ordered to serve 90 days in jail and be on probation for 30 years for sexually assaulting a teenage girl
Edited to add one more.. from the Houston County News, “Hokah man charged in sexual assault” (emphasis mine):
A 21-year-old Hokah man is accused of sexually assaulting an intoxicated woman while she slept.
[The accused] entered the woman’s Onalaska, Wis., bedroom early June 30 after a stream of harassing telephone calls, according to the complaint filed July 15 in La Crosse County Circuit Court.
[The accused] was charged with second-degree sexual assault and returns to court July 29 for a preliminary hearing.
He is free on a $5,000 signature bond.